18 Reasons You Should Be Faithful to Your Lover/Spouse*

By Dayan Masinde

1. Being faithful to your lover encourages your lover to be faithful to you.

2. Being faithful makes your relationship/marriage last. The quickest and easiest way to end your relationship/marriage is by cheating.

3. Being faithful gives you peace of mind, you don't have to watch your tracks, you are not paranoid, trying to remember every lie you say.

4. Being faithful boosts the quality of your sex life. Faithfulness is sexy. When your spouse knows you are faithful your spouse will give you great sex, no one feels safe sexing a spouse who has been with another.

5. Being faithful makes you focus on your relationship/marriage. You are not distracted, flirting with another/s or sexing another/others. Focus makes you have a healthy love life.

6. There cannot be love without faithfulness.

7. If you don't want to be faithful, why are you in that relationship/marriage? What is the point of committing if you will not be exclusive? If you are tired of the commitment, end it; don't stay and cheat, that shows how low you stoop, making a mockery out of your commitment.

8. God is faithful, strive to be like God. God is love.

9. Faithfulness sets the right example for your children to follow. Children learn from our actions and behavior.

10. Being faithful has a positive effect on your character. That way, you are able to live out your greatness with confidence. Integrity is important, and it starts by how you live your private life, it gives moral authority. Mess up your private life and everything else will fall apart.

11. Faithful people are happier, more relaxed, more fulfilled, they smile more; their conscience is clear, living a life that is not stressful, empty or complicated.

12. Being faithful makes you proud of yourself. Yes, you may feel macho or in control when you cheat, you may numb your conscience. But when your unfaithfulness breaks the good that you have and hurts the person and the family you should have been faithful to, it will hurt you too. It will be difficult to live with yourself.

13. Being faithful makes your lover trust you, and with trust, he/she surrenders and gives all to you, you get to know your lover deeply as access is fully granted to you. Without trust, you will never fully receive all the blessings your lover brings.

14. Being faithful makes others respect you. When you stand your ground and tell off those trying to lure you from the one you are committed to, when you publicly show loyalty to your lover, the public will respect you, people will admire you.

15. Unfaithfulness brings diseases; not just sexual diseases but the rotting of your heart, it darkens and poisons the amazing person you actually are, condoms cannot protect you from the decay of your soul.

16. There is no benefit in being unfaithful, no fruit, reward or advantage; just pain, regret and destruction. Unfaithfulness feeds on your selfish side and blinds you.

17. The person you are being unfaithful with doesn't have your best interest at heart but seeking to feed his/her selfish desire and needs. That person doesn't care about the mess he/she is bringing to your life. Yes, you two may feel close, you may even say you love each other; but even terrorists and thieves have a sense of love and belonging amongst each other, you two are criminals committing a crime. That person has personal issues, that's why he/she doesn't respect your legitimate commitment. And you are foolish to allow yourself to be led astray, that person is short term wrecking your lifetime.

18. Eventually the thrill of unfaithfulness will go. When people venture into unfaithfulness, it feels so good, exciting and pleasurable. You plan secret meetings with the one you are cheating with, you enjoy; but soon you will realize it is wrong, the affair will collapse, you will outgrow your stupidity. Sadly, you come back to what is important, you come back to your legitimate relationship/marriage/family, back to the treasure you used to invest in only to realize it is too late, the damage is done. You destroyed something so great, you destroyed a once in a lifetime blessing, for something so meaningless.

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  1. WHAT IS LOVE?
    by GEOFREY MALWA 00:29

    WHAT IS LOVE?


    ******
    Umuhimu wake ulikuwa kama maji mwilini,sikutaka kuamini kama watu huwa wanapenda kama mimi nilivyompenda yeye.Siwezi kusema alikuwa moyoni mwangu,nahisi alikuwa ndio moyo wangu.Mapigo yangu ya moyo,furaha yangu wakati wote.Watu husema kuwa ukipendwa ndio raha lakini kauli hii niliamini haina ukweli wowote,ukweli ni kwamba ukipenda ndio raha,jinsi nilivyokuwa nikijisikia nikiwa na yeye sidhani kama mtu aliyependwa angejisikia hivyo.Ukiona mtu ameoa au ameolewa kwasababu tu amependwa pasipo yeye kupenda,basi ndoa hiyo haitadumu.

    Upendo niliokuwa nao juu yake haukuwa wa kawaida,sidhani kama yeye alinipenda sawa na mimi nilivyompenda.Familia yetu ilikuwa ya kitajiri sana,walikuwepo wanaume wenye pesa lakini hawakufanikiwa kuuteka moyo wangu kama huyu mwanaume aliyetokea katika familia ya hali duni.Nilipomaliza chuo kikuu Uingereza,kurudi nyumbani nilikuta mabadiliko makubwa ambayo dalili zake nilianza kuziona wakati nikiwa uingereza,sikutaka kuziwekea maanani kwasababu Nilimpenda sana,
    “Gibson una mke?” nilishtuka sana aliponiambia ameoa
    “ni wazazi wangu walinishinikiza sio kwa kupenda kwangu,” alinijibu huku akiweka sura ya huruma.Nilijua anaigiza tu
    “kwahiyo…” nilijikuta nikishindwa kuongeza neno lingine baada ya hilo na kuanza kulia.Sikuamini Gibson wangu amepotea kwenye maisha yangu ya baadaye yaliyokuwa na uzuri wake wa kufikirika.Niliondoka nikiwa na hasira sana,zilipopita siku tatu nikiwa nimeapa kutomtafuta tena…moyo ulishindwa,nikampigia simu na kumwomba hata niwe mke wake wa pili,aliniambia dini hairuhusu.Maisha nilianza kuyaonja katika upande wa chungu,wazazi wangu walijitahidi sana kuwa karibu na mimi katika kipindi hiko.Namshukuru Mungu sikuchanganyikiwa na kuwa chizi japo kuna muda sikujielewa kabisa kila nikiwaza kuwa Gibson sio wangu na hatokuwa wangu milele,
    “nikafanye fujo kwenye harusi yake? Au nimteke aishi na mimi kwa lazima?” yote yalikuwa ni mawazo yangu ambapo baadaye nilijua ni hasira tu.Harusi yake ilikaribia ambapo kabla ya kwenda kushuhudia kipenzi changu anavyofunga ndoa na mwingine,nilisali Mungu anipe nguvu.Nilikwenda na niliwapa zawadi ya biblia,kuna wakati nilimwangalia huyo msichana kwa hasira,nilijiuliza ana nini mpaka ameweza kumchukua Gibson wangu.Harusi ilipoisha nilirejea nyumbani na kupumzika.

    Ilipita miaka sita nikiwa sina hamu na mwanaume yeyote,moyoni mwangu bado aliishi Gibson wakati yeye alikuwa na furaha na mke wake.Walijaaliwa kupata watoto wawili wa kike ambao ni mapacha.Walipouanza mwaka wa saba wa ndoa yao,andiko la Mungu lilibidi kutimia.Walipata ajali ya gari,walikuwa familia nzima.Gibson,mkewe na watoto wake,Gibson na mkewe hawakuomba hata maji,palepale walifariki dunia.Basi walilopatia ajali lilikuwa ni kubwa na watu walijazana mpaka wengine kusimama.Watoto wao hao mapacha Vaileti na Valeria waliumia vibaya sana,wakati huo walikuwa na umri wa miaka mitatu.Nilipopata taarifa hizo niliumia mno kwani bado nilimpenda Gibson.

    Uwezo wa kulipia matibabu kwa familia zote mbili hawakuwa nao hivyo niliamua kuingilia kati suala hilo.Sikutaka kuwaweka katika mizani kwamba ndio waliomshinikiza Gibson kuoa mwanamke mwingine wakati walijua yuko na mimi,wala sikutaka kusikia maneno ya watu kuwa wazazi wa Gibson ni washirikina na walitumia huo ushirikina kumshawishi mtoto wao aoe mwanamke mwingine ili mambo yao yaende vyema.Niligharamikia matibabu ambapo majeraha waliyonayo iliwalazimu kupumzishwa Hospitari kwa muda mrefu sana.Ajali hiyo ya basi ilikuwa ni msiba wa taifa zima,mapacha hao wawili ndio walifanikiwa kutoka salama lakini waliosalia wote walipoteza maisha,wengi palepale na wachache baada ya kufikishwa hospitarini.Watoto wazuri mapacha,wengi waliwaombea sana Mungu awaponye.

    JibuFuta
    Majibu
    1. Baada ya kupelekwa mpaka nje ya nchi,ndio walipata ahueni,niliwalea kama watoto wangu,niliwasomesha na kuwajali kwa kila kitu.Wazazi wa Gibson walijishtukia na kuniomba msamaha kwa walichokifanya nikawasamehe kwasababu kosa halikuwa lao ni la mtoto wao,angenipenda angenisubiri badala ya kukubali kuoa mwanamke mwingine.

      *****

      “wanangu mbona mnalia jamani,kuna nini mnanitisha!” niliuliza kwa mshangao baada ya kuwakuta wamekaa chumbani kwangu kitandani wakilia.Wote wawili Valeria na Vaileti walikuja na kunikumbatia,bado sikuwalewa wamepatwa na nini
      “mbona siwaelewi jamani watoto wangu,”
      “ahsante sana mama,hatukujua uliyoyapitia,”
      “Ahsante mama,tunakupenda mama yetu.” Vaileti na Valeria waliniambia hivyo na kunitisha sana,ila nilipotupia macho yangu kitandani niliiona 'Diary' yangu niliyoandika historia kuhusiana na Gibson mpaka kuwaokoa watoto hao.Niliiandika muda mrefu kidogo kama miaka ishirini na tatu iliyopita.Vaileti na Valeria walikuwa ni mabinti wakubwa kabisa,niliwapeleka chuo kikuu uingereza na walikuwa mwaka wa pili.Basi ikabidi niwakumbatie pia na kuwaelewesha vizuri,waliniona mtu wa ajabu sana kwani mpaka muda huo sikuwa na mpango wa kuolewa na nilikuwa na miaka thelethini na moja,nilizidi kuwaambia baba yao ndio mume wangu wa maisha,anaishi moyoni mwangu milele yote.Hakuna mtu anayeweza kuwa na mimi zaidi yake.Vailet na Valeria walijifunza kitu kikubwa sana siku hiyo kuhusu Upendo,
      “kwahiyo hutakuja kuolewa?” alihoji Vaileti.
      “sina mpango huo,hata umri nao umeshasogea.”
      Kitu kingine kilichonipa furaha nikiwa nao,walifanana sana na baba yao Gibson.Muda mwingi nilicheza nao kama wote ni watoto wadogo ambapo tulijisikia amani sana.
      Upendo hauhesabu mabaya,
      Upendo huvumilia.

      MWISHO.

      Futa

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